Kingdom Wisdom Begins with Humility

Kingdom wisdom begins with humility. In Matthew 7:1–5, Jesus teaches that His followers must let God address what is happening in them before they focus on what is wrong with someone else. For pastors, ministry leaders, and Christians seeking to lead faithfully, this is not a call to avoid truth or correction. It is a call to discern without condemning, to correct without superiority, and to pursue restoration rather than exposure.

This message, “Kingdom Wisdom Part 1” from Keys Vineyard, begins a journey through Matthew 7 after the church spent significant time in Matthew 5 and 6. Those chapters of the Sermon on the Mount establish the character of Kingdom people, the call to be salt and light, and the need for an inside-out righteousness shaped by yielding to the Holy Spirit. Matthew 7 then asks an unavoidable leadership question: What does a heart aligned with the Father look like when it encounters other people?

Does “Do Not Judge” Mean Christians Should Never Discern?

Jesus begins plainly: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged” (Matthew 7:1). This verse is often treated as though Christians should never evaluate conduct, identify error, confront sin, or disagree with anyone. But Jesus cannot be forbidding all discernment. Later in the same chapter, He warns His followers to beware of false prophets and says they will recognize them by their fruit (Matthew 7:15–20). Recognizing fruit requires discernment.

The issue is not whether leaders and believers make moral or spiritual judgments. The issue is the spirit in which they do so. There is a meaningful difference between saying, “That action is wrong,” and claiming, “Therefore I know everything about this person—their motives, their character, their story, and their standing before God.” The first can be careful discernment. The second assumes a place that belongs to God.

Jesus reinforces this distinction in John 7:24: “Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly.” Healthy Christian leadership requires more than quick reactions to appearances. It requires prayerful attention, biblical conviction, humility, and a willingness to acknowledge that leaders do not always know the full context of another person’s life.

Churches need leaders who can hold convictions without becoming harsh, speak truth without losing love, and recognize what is wrong without believing they are better than the person who is wrong. That is Kingdom wisdom.

Why Does the Measure We Use Matter?

In Matthew 7:2, Jesus warns that the measure people use toward others matters: “For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” This should slow down every leader, parent, pastor, and ministry team member.

Human beings often want justice for others and grace for themselves. When someone else fails, it is easy to assign a character verdict: selfish, irresponsible, uncaring. When we fail, we tend to explain our circumstances: we were tired, under pressure, having a difficult week, or carrying burdens others could not see.

That does not mean circumstances always excuse sin. It means humility recognizes that other people also have context that may not be visible to us. James 2:12–13 gives the needed Kingdom posture: believers are to speak and act as people accountable to God, remembering that “mercy triumphs over judgment.”

Ministry cultures become unhealthy when accountability is applied with severity to everyone else but grace is reserved for those with influence, familiarity, or power. Conversely, a grace-shaped culture does not deny sin; it refuses to make condemnation its default response. Leaders who have received grace from God are called to extend mercy as they pursue truth.

The Speck Is Real, but Restoration Is the Goal

Jesus’ illustration does not deny the reality of the speck. A brother or sister may genuinely have something in their eye. Sin may be real. Harm may need to be addressed. Correction may be necessary. Matthew 7 is not permission for believers to retreat into detached indifference or to say that everyone should simply mind their own business.

Instead, Jesus teaches His people how to help someone well.

This matters especially in ministry leadership. It is possible to be factually right and relationally unhelpful. A leader may correctly identify a problem while approaching it in a way that wounds the person who needs care. Truth without love can wound the very person we hope to help.

Galatians 6:1 provides a clear pattern: if someone is caught in sin, those who live by the Spirit should seek to restore that person gently while watching themselves. The goal is not, “I caught you.” The goal is, “How can I help restore you?” Those are entirely different postures.

Restoration does not require minimizing what happened. It does require remembering why correction exists in the first place. Christian correction should seek the person’s good, their freedom, their reconciliation with God, and their return to healthy life in community. For further encouragement in cultivating grace-filled ministry relationships, leaders may find helpful resources through Church Encourager.

Why Must We Start with the Plank?

Jesus’ image is intentionally memorable: someone is preoccupied with a tiny speck of sawdust in another person’s eye while ignoring a plank in their own eye (Matthew 7:3–5). The absurdity is part of the point. Jesus exposes a deeply human tendency—we are often much better at seeing what is wrong with others than seeing what is wrong with ourselves.

Notice that Jesus does not say to ignore the speck. He says to deal with the plank first. The order matters. Before asking, “What is wrong with them?” Kingdom wisdom asks, “Father, what is happening in me?” Before correcting someone else’s attitude, examine your own. Before questioning another person’s motives, ask God to search yours. Before pointing out pride, consider whether pride is shaping your response.

Psalm 139:23–24 gives language for this ongoing work: “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” This is a serious prayer because it moves the spotlight from everyone else to us.

The sermon offers a useful picture: the difference between a window and a mirror. A window directs attention outward—to what others are doing, saying, believing, or posting. A mirror helps us see ourselves. Churches and leaders need both. We must not become blind to what is happening around us, but before acting on what we see through the window, Jesus calls us to look in the mirror.

Importantly, plank work is not a task believers finish once and then use as proof of their maturity. It is ongoing discipleship. Even long-time followers of Jesus continue to need repentance, grace, and the transforming work of the Holy Spirit. Those serving in leadership may especially need structures of prayer, accountability, and self-examination that keep them from confusing authority with spiritual superiority. Ministry leaders looking for biblical formation resources can explore the Online Bible Institute.

How Does Grace Change the Way We See People?

Jesus says that after the plank is addressed, a person will “see clearly” to help with the speck (Matthew 7:5). Repentance changes vision. Honest self-examination makes believers more aware of their own weakness, sin, and need for grace. That awareness should transform how they see the weakness of others.

Instead of superiority, there can be compassion. Instead of condemnation, humility. Instead of asking, “How could you?” there can be the recognition, “I understand what it means to need grace.”

No one came to Jesus because they had everything together. Believers came because they needed Him, and they still need Him every day. This is the foundation for a ministry culture where truth and mercy belong together. Grace does not make leaders passive about sin; it makes them careful not to use another person’s sin as an opportunity for self-exaltation.

How Can Churches Practice Kingdom Wisdom This Week?

In a culture shaped by social media, constant news, and immediate reactions, judgment can become almost automatic. Within seconds, people can decide who someone is, why they said something, what their motives must be, and whether they deserve contempt. Jesus calls His people to another way.

A simple pastoral practice is the pause. Before criticizing someone, pause. Before posting online, pause. Before repeating something you heard, pause. Before deciding that you know another person’s motives, pause.

Then pray: “Father, is there some plank work that I need to deal with first?”

That pause does not eliminate discernment. It creates room for humility, prayer, love, and clearer vision. It helps leaders and congregations disagree without despising, correct without condemning, and speak truth while remembering that they live by the grace of God.

Kingdom wisdom does not begin by asking, “What is wrong with them?” It begins by praying, “Father, show me what You want to change in me.”

Steve Lawes is a Church Consultant and also provides coaching for pastors, churches, ministries and church planters.